Legacies - The Innocence of a Young Marriage

Written By Cristy

Once upon a time, my sweet folks were married in a rural Mexican village. The groom's family hosted the occasion. They came around late afternoon on Friday for her and up until they arrive from a neighboring village, she worried she would be stood up. Leading up to the wedding my dad's father, Don Ciro, gave them 1000 ($10) pesos to buy the wedding dress and tux. They went from their little village to the big city Guadalajara on a bus to get them with my dad's sister (they weren't allowed to be alone for one second). Starting Friday, the celebrations started. They had mariachi, dancing and lots of food that last through Sunday, Don Ciro's birthday. Saturday, being the official wedding day. The bride was 16 and the groom, 18. Per custom, the bride's parents were not invited but were sent food as a goodwill gesture. They graciously accepted the food but didn't eat it, offering it up instead to the other children. It was common to note that if the bride's parents didn't agree with the marriage they would send the food back. However, my mother's father, Fidel, did go on a sentimental drinking binge. My folks said they were very in love and couldn't stand being apart but they had to soon after the wedding because it was also a tradition for the bride to return to her family for one more week after the wedding. My grandfather, Fidel, cried with tears of happiness upon her return. But my dad ultimately landed getting my mom back sooner by having her return midweek to him to become the godparents for an other couple's wedding. Everyone was very generous and my parent's started their lives with a tiny house, several chickens, a pig and a small plot of land to grow corn that offered a very nice yield their first year. They were very fortunate indeed.

Cristy

Hola, Piyali, Hello! I am a queer Latina Chicana mestiza ((detribalized Caxcan/ Iberian colonial) mother, storyteller and decolonial somatic psychotherapist licensed in California with fourteen years of clinical experience in the field of depth psychology. My private practice, Imaginal Therapy + Sacred Arts, centers soul care and offers ketamine journeys. I am a graduate of Loyola Marymount University, Pacifica Graduate Institute and the Hakomi Institute of California. I specialize in intergenerational trauma, healing the family soul for personal and cultural transformation, and psychedelic/entheogen integration. I work with clients in a holistic approach to connect to collective wisdom through imagination, intuition, mindfulness, embodiment, dreamwork and creative expression. My treatment focus is on relationship, cultural wounds, trauma resolution, ancestral lineage repair, animist parenting, kinship ethics, and reconnecting to the sacred.

I am a certified Ancestral Lineage Healing practitioner and also an initiated serpent medicine keeper and priestess in sacred arts with 8 years of training. As a ritualist and coach, I offer virtual mentoring and circles globally. I am steeped in my traditions, mythology, cultura and roots, originally from the villages of Juchipila, Zac, Mexico, born and raised in Tongva lands, Los Angeles, residing on Nisenan land, Sacramento. My lineage gifts are in storytelling, dignity, sweetness, relating to the spirit magic of bee, deer, maize, and cacao. I have been given the medicine name, Cloud Serpent. I am honored to reclaim reverence for my mother mountain, Tlachialoyantepec, a sacred site. I hold a vow with my people to live the repair, in service of the anima, mundi, the world soul.

https://imaginaltherapy@gmail.com
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